Not because I want to flourish in the absence of your success.
Neither do I enjoy watching you fail. Or anyone for that matter.
But every now and again, I do want you to fail.
It will be good for you.
I’ll tell you why…
Take a moment to scroll down your newsfeed, or maybe jump through a couple of stories on Instagram.
See anyone failing in life?
See anyone telling you how hard things are?
Anyone written a story of their disappointments, of the hard times, or the suffering they are going through?
You may be world enough to see through the lies people post. You may even be able to read what someone really means without having written it.
What I want you to realize is that what the world shows you is not the truth. What you see is only what people want you to see. People want you to like their posts. They want you to tell them how amazing they are, or how inspiring they are. They want a positive reflection from you to make them feel better about themselves
Do you know what feels better?
When, once you have failed, you eventually succeed.
Do you know what feels even better?
When you fail over and over again. For maybe weeks, months or even years. And, then you succeed.
Most, if not all of the greatest most successful entrepreneurs in the world have a story, if not multiple stories of their disappointments. Of the tough times. Of the times they had to hustle to get off the street. Of the times they lost thousands, or maybe millions. Of the times they worked for months or even years only to be squashed like a paper clip.
I recently watched another episode from a series called ‘Leaders Create Leaders’ presented by Gerald Adams. Interestingly, the number one lesson, the lesson I take from every episode, is that each and every one of these rich, successful, genuine entrepreneurs, is the understanding of the purpose of your own failure. They understand that they will fail, but that, that failure will teach them the steps to grow as an individual and for their future. The acceptance of failure, as a stepping stone to their success.
I love the 2017 Youtube documentary about Mat Fraser. In the series he talks about how, for him, he lost twice. How he hates his two second-place medals. But, at the same time those are the medals that mean the most to him. He recognizes that the first time he placed second, he in fact did not deserve to win the CrossFit Games. How the second time he had put in the work, the effort and he was committed, but he had further to go. That he had to want it more. That he had to dedicate his life to his success. He talks about how he used those medals to grow as both an athlete and an individual. And when he did win, how sweet that success felt.
Do you know what it took for Sir Edmund Hilary to reach the summit of Mt Everest?
Do you know how Sir Colin Meads became one of the most successful All Blacks of his time?
Do you know how what it took Kate Shepard to win the right for New Zealand woman to vote?
Do you know how much Robert T.Kiyosaki, the founder of Rich Dad Poor Dad, lost before he became the wealthy man he is today?
The thing that these people like others, have in common, is that they failed.
Not only did they fail. They failed enough times, with enough hurt, that when they did succeed it really meant something.
With a little resilience, some perseverance and plenty of determination, failing is the perfect pathway to your success.
You won’t see your success, only your failure. You will see plenty of success around you and in front of you, but hopefully you fail, maybe even a couple of times. Because when you do succeed, you won’t need to tell the world, it will feel too great to even matter.