Especially when you are talking about something that you have not even tried yourself.
How trustworthy are you or your advice if what you are saying is bullshit?
Is that the kind of person you want to be perceived as?
Knocking something before you try it, is a quick road to losing your integrity.
Last week I made a comment which I truly wish someone had punched me in the gut before I had, had the time to say…
“Why would you want to do that? Yoga is dumb!”
The group I was talking to giggled quietly and continued to stretch.
A member then approached me as we moved on to the next piece training…
“I don’t get it. So, you are saying that one of the classes you offer here at Taurus is dumb? So, I shouldn’t go?”
Exactly, almost word for word, what I had said. There is no other way you could interpret that.
What was I thinking? I wasn’t trying to be cool. Or, undermine the instructors that we have who take our classes. Nor was I trying to discredit the class itself.
That comment is a direct reflection of my upbringing. Something which I have been learning about and trying to change.
A couple of weeks ago I wrote briefly about learning. About taking a step back to learn from an experience.
This time is deeper than that. This is about understanding you. Understanding that there will be things that you do, or say. Or things that you believe because of something you learnt earlier in life.
When I was a younger, my mother had always told me
“Boy, make sure you peel those Kumara’s properly. You can’t eat the skin”.
Now, for no reason at all I have always until recently thought that to peel a kumara before you eat it is simply thing to do. It was not until almost a year ago, I was visiting a friend who had invited my wife and I for dinner. I decided to give her a hand and offered to prepare the kumara. She accepted the offer, but before long stopped me in shock.
“What are you doing? Why are you peeling them? The skin is the most nutritious bit?”
It was that moment, that I realized what I was told as a child was purely a matter of opinion. An opinion Justified because that’s how my mother preferred to eat Kumara. Looking back now, there are so many things which I now know are a matter of preference or opinion. Which, as a child I treated as gospel. As we grow, we all established these understandings that until you question will be all you know.
It was as a child, before I even knew what yoga was, that I was already set up to fail in that moment.
No disrespect to my mother, she brought me up the best way she knew how. And, she did a pretty good job. No, this falls back on me.
I had put the important things aside…
To develop your own opinion and experiences.
It is not easy to accept that you are wrong. It is even harder to accept that you have been wrong your entire life. But, what is harder than all of that, is to be open minded. To allow yourself to continue learn.
That following Sunday I was the Trainer scheduled to take open gym from 1 until 3pm. Our Yoga class starts at 3pm. After sitting in the member’s area for almost the first 15mins of the class, I decided to take my own advice. I grabbed a mat and joined in.
I wasn’t good. Honestly, I was quite average.
But, I will be going again this weekend. And as many of the lads as I can convince will be joining me too.
The world is changing.
You don’t want to be left behind.