Without being defensive, think about it.
The number one reason you are not getting results…
Is that you lack discipline!
And, because you lack discipline you make countless excuses.
The past seven days have been full of passionate conversations.
Discussions, debates or arguments, call it what you like. What I love is hearing different opinions, experiences, situations, circumstances and how they relate to whatever topic that so happens to be in question.
One particular conversation this week really made for a somewhat of an entertaining discussion.
I asked the group –
“Has anyone read Ben Bergeron’s book ‘Chasing Excellence’? It’s not a bad read…
I can’t remember exactly where, but in the book Ben writes about a training weekend he hosts for a number of his top athletes prior to the Regionals competition in 2016. At the start of the weekend he asks all of the athletes to think of something they really want, or a place they would really like to go. He then asks that they print off a picture of that thing or place and to bring the picture in and place it on the wall in front of the Runner. The idea being that they can look at that picture while they are suffering to distract them. The next day all of the athletes place their picture on the wall, except Mat Fraser. Ben asks Mat if he had forgotten to bring in his picture. Mat says nothing. He looks at Ben, then walks over to the wall in front of the runner and draws a small cross on the wall and replies, distractions are distractions.”
Yes, I understand this is an extreme scenario, and I realise Mat Fraser is the 1%. But, now I had everyone on the attack...
“Yeah, that’s easy to say, he doesn’t have kids!”
“That’s easy for someone who doesn’t have to work”
“Yeah, and he is the exception”
The exact, self-justifying, defensive responses I had expected.
I Replied –
“Think about the comparison. I am not suggesting that any of you should quit your job, or that you have failed because you have chosen to have children, nor that any of you are distracted.”
I could see the confusion amongst the group.
“Yes, Mat Fraser is the extreme scenario. But there is a lesson you can take away from this particular example. A distraction is an excuse. An excuse is something which you create because you do not have the discipline to remove distractions. If you can develop the discipline required to achieve your goal or goals, you do not need distractions.”
Think about it like this.
Let’s say that you are going to run a half marathon this year.
Each day, before you start your training you buy a coffee.
Why? Because it tastes good, or because it gives you a boost.
Buying a coffee is a distraction.
A coffee has no influence on whether or not you achieve your goal.
“But it helps wake me up”
No, it is an excuse that you have created with which you can consciously blame if something doesn’t go right.
It is an excuse because you do not have the discipline to focus on your goal.
Put it this way, if you cannot explain to a five-year-old how it will benefit you in achieving your goal.
It’s an excuse.
Work on your discipline, not your distractions.